As compassion awakens, we find ourselves in a new land—or at least it feels that way. This new land is one where the rules are apparent and you are guided easily through the journey. It is a place where dreams don’t die in the daylight; we manifest with ease. It is a place of power, beauty, and abundance. It is a place of peace and kindness. Alice called it Wonderland; Dorothy called it home. Either way, there’s no place like it. Right now, you are likely calling this perfect place “there”—where you’ll be healthy, happy, rich, famous, safe, and secure, here on Earth.
I commonly refer to states of being as places to show you how the mind can be tricky. We often allow ourselves to imagine things that we believe we can’t have. We often will dream of a different place when we are simply in a poor mind-body state. We often speak of a new place because we’ve forgotten how to access these higher states of being.
You can change your mind/body state of being when you’re ready. These higher states of consciousness are real and amazing. These are also the states where you are going to feel normal, authentic. If you don’t feel this way now, you’re simply blocked—trapped for the moment.
Sometimes I also refer to these mind/body states as postures, which are a way of self-diagnosing our mind-body state through witnessing our relationships. We can learn about our level of consciousness and how to heal ourselves and our relationships through understanding our postures in our relationships.
We may have glimpsed some of the higher postures, but until we master the lower postures, we will not be able to stay conscious (in the higher postures where we discover our authentic self) for very long. The postures are listed below, from highest to lowest.
- Oneness—Oneness is pure connection to the universe. Of course, this is the goal for all of our relationships. We feel knowing and bliss in this posture. Regardless of who is in front of you, you feel love and complete understanding of their world. This is the state where we are completely free of fear. We effortlessly perceive profound beauty, clarity, and abundance.
- Zero—Zero is perfect balance, the door to the universe. All of the wonderful feelings come alive in this state. There is very little difference between the zero state and unity with the universe. We sense divine understanding in our relationships with others. We also understand our purpose in the world. We realize the spiritual role each unique relationship plays. We sense the power of resolve. This is the state we are being guided to every moment. When you want or expect something to happen in your life and nothing happens, know that this nothing (zero) is the clue. The zero posture leads to oneness.
- Compassion—Compassion is the universal feeling of altruism for others. It is not a thought, but an ascended mind-body state. To master the compassionate posture in your relationships, you must find complete balance both in the relationship and within yourself. Compassion toward others is the practice of complete alignment with their state and being the perfect complement to their state of being. This is trickier than the lesser state of empathy, because in compassion, we must master spiritual disagreement with pain. For example, a compassionate spiritual teacher brings equal parts understanding and wisdom to their students’ suffering as well as another equal part of disagreement with that suffering. No one wants a spiritual teacher, doctor, or any kind of healer who ultimately agrees that your condition cannot be healed. A compassionate posture says to a person—whatever the condition—yes, you’re having a terrible moment and you are in a terrible state. At the same time, get up, you can do this! When this balance is found, we will feel magic in the relationship. Compassion is profoundly neutral and honors neither the victimhood nor “villainhood” found in the lesser postures. Compassion leads all people to profound self-healing and purpose. The practice of compassion toward the self and others leads to a zero state.
- Empathy—Empathy is the posture of complete alignment with another person’s pain. Empathy is “me too.” I can relate to your feelings, and I may have been through what you are going through. Your empathy toward another person is actually you witnessing and learning how to address the unresolved issues in yourself you may or may not know about. Our ability to be empathetic in our relationships leads us to the more balanced state of compassion, because we learn the most powerful thing of all is empathy. When we witness the world through empathy, we see how people choose to suffer. Empathy is important yet dangerous, because when we validate peoples’ suffering without the “you can do this—get up” part, we feed the pain of victimhood. In other words, people learn that the victim state works. As a victim, they find attention and love what they can’t get any other way. As we master empathy, which is really true alignment with peoples’ suffering, we then discover compassion. I completely understand total alignment. I also completely disagree with your victim/villain story. Get up. The practice of empathy leads to compassion.
- Sympathy—I see there is a problem with you, but it has nothing to do with me. I cannot align with your pain. Sympathy is a sign of spiritual awakening because we become aware of other peoples’ suffering, from which we are protected by anger and other spiritual blocks. We learn that sometimes pain is purposeful, but we are not aware of our own pain. As we notice the pain of others, we will gradually learn how to align with their suffering. The practice of sympathy leads to empathy.
- Anger—I am angry with someone or about something. Anger and its violent and nonviolent variations: rage, contempt, judgement, aggression, and passive aggressiveness are forms of self-denial. I choose self-denial when I’m near you because I don’t trust you. You very likely see something in me that I am not ready to know about myself. Anger is usually manifested in relationships that are somewhat intimate. We will spend a great deal of time on this topic because it’s where most people are stuck in some of their relationships. Anger is only slightly higher than true self-denial because it is emotional awareness aimed to destroy a relationship. Anger means that the body is not suppressing the pain, but allowing it to be voiced harmfully. This state is one of profound powerlessness and chaos. You will perceive the universe to be harsh, because you are highly destructive and your karma is mirrored to you. When you are in enough pain, you will become aware of others’ pain. Anger leads to sympathy.
- Self-denial—The bottom rung of the ladder. Typically, individuals in self-denial are unable to diagnose themselves because complete self-denial is sneaky. My mind says, “I am happy, and my life is perfect,” but the rest of my life doesn’t suggest any of that. I am not aware of my impact on others in my relationships. I am often sick or experience chronic pain. I may have extreme physical habits such as eating, drinking, smoking, or exercising to numb my feelings. I have very few relationships and don’t feel connected to anyone, or I have a ton of relationships and still don’t feel connected to anyone. I rarely feel emotions near people or alone. I feel as if my world is out of my control, and I cannot predict or manifest anything. I feel that things keep happening to me and that I do not have a purpose. At some point, people in self-denial become angry.
Today, we talk about perfect balance on Earth. As we begin accessing compassion, we also begin witnessing a world that we scarcely remember. This transcendent state is called Zero State, and you speak of it daily, yet you may not realize it.
For example, someone may ask you what you want to do today. And you say, “Nothing.” This is the clue to the state for which you are searching, Zero, but cannot access. In the normal state of consciousness, Zero, this is not even a question. In Zero, we know what to do and want to do it. Yet your own response is guiding you to it. “I want to do nothing today.” And you do.
Now you know why I call my Twitter handle ZEROES ARE HEROES. We must access this state to learn to be the heroes in our lives, to manifest our purpose here.
Zero is a mind-body state where we know everything is perfect, even the horror that we endured to get to Zero. Remember, much of your pain (karma) is self-created, and all pain can be healed.
This is a big, hard-to-believe promise—that there is a perfect state—yet there is at least a part of you that hopes I’m correct. This is a completely understandable response. Not too long ago, I would have punched someone in the face for suggesting some of the things I’m suggesting.
Even worse is that we receive a good bit of confusing messaging from experts about this word “perfect” and the idea of perfection. Many psychologists will tell you that your need to be a perfectionist is a problem and that you must accept yourself as imperfect. If you’ve ever witnessed the torment of a perfectionist, you understand why really wise people suggest this.
Our desire for perfection or at least to see the things with perfect clarity is a universal condition manifested in many different ways. Some openly seek to perfect processes, which is what we call perfectionism. Many manifest the desire for this perfect state as one that we will get to live when we retire, when we go to Paris, yet live in anger and stress now for a happier future. The most common form of awakening to the idea of perfection is called anxiety. I call anxiety the deep desire to know the future through our terrifying worry about it. Our mind-bodies are seeking to heal and yet get stuck in the fear.
I personally thought of the word perfection as a hate word. A tool of torture. I would never consciously seek perfection, yet I know I was seeking it through self-hate. I think the idea of perfection is terrifying, because when we are completely lost, even the thought of being perfect feels like it might drive us mad.
The good news is that the psychologists are absolutely correct in knowing that we must be okay in loving ourselves, no matter where we are. The road home is self-acceptance of whatever you think you are or have done. We cannot hate ourselves enough to be perfect, to be conscious. And this is what I believe they mean. If you use the vehicle of hate as a tool to propel yourself toward perfection, it is simply a trick of your ego to stay lost. It’s the ultimate trick, really. I look like I’m trying hard. I hate the world, and it hates me.
So we are headed to a higher state of witnessing clarity and perfection, yet we are asked to love ourselves regardless of what we do. When we really sit with this idea, we understand what grace and beauty we live under. I am to love myself, no matter what, accept myself, no matter what, and this is the way home. We are asked to live in a perpetual state of compassion (self-forgiveness) until we learn to stay in the perfect state of Zero, consciousness.
The secret to getting to this perfect state is to do nothing. No, it’s not a joke or a gimmick. What you are seeing is the elegance of this place we live in. The road back to the perfect state of balance, Zero, is to do nothing. Get it? Most of the world is a mind-dominated and process-dominated place of doing something, fixing something. Practicing compassion is something your body/mind would heal nicely, if the processes of self-denial through doing and thinking could be stopped.
When we do nothing, we actually witness our mind deny self-acceptance. We witness the “I hate” stuff. I hate my____. I’ve heard it all. My life, my butt, my kids, my spouse. All of this is your mind building and reacting to your discomfort and fear of truly owning the life you’ve created.
I’m not disagreeing with you, either. It feels very real. You may be frustrated, but when you can start gently peeking behind the curtain, like Dorothy did to the great and powerful Oz, you see that the power and stories you’ve given your pain are illusionary. That does not mean you don’t feel uncomfortable.
I always suggest reframing your pain story as “I’m in pain,” then breathe. Gently be with the discomfort until you witness the pain, and the story, dissolve. This is the nothing I suggest you do. This process allows a space in the mind for the compassion to awaken and relieve the pain. If you are in big pain and need help, do not hesitate to get medical or psychological attention!! Big pain is not a time to practice.
When we access compassion, we understand the world again. We see the grace we’ve been given and learn how to live in grace—perfection. The state where we know the universe is unimaginably perfectly designed for everyone in it. The rules are within each of us, and grace is running this place, whether we can see it in every moment or not.
Tomorrow, I will repost my ZEROES ARE HEROES post so that you can see that the universe is always guiding you here!