I have always been obsessed with climbing Everest—at least with the shows about it on TV. About once a year I actually go to the mountains, and my sister drags me up the amongst the bears. Even though it’s not close to the altitude of Everest, it is very challenging for me.
From these experiences, all I can say is it’s easy to think it’s easy when you’re sitting on the couch and watching the Jumbotron in your living room—but it’s not.
When you’re out there doing, challenging all aspects of physicality and character, then you perceive the experience to be very different than on TV. These “frontier moments” are opportunities to see who we are and what we’re really afraid of.
They are also opportunities to see what we do when we’re afraid and how we feel when we are actually doing.
When the experience becomes hard, do we lash out at people and make it worse for everyone? Do we cry? Do we ask for support and work through it? Do we turn around and go home and live in fear and never mountain climb again? I’ve done everyone of these except the last!
Today’s lesson is a lesson about who we are and how we manage our relationships when we are afraid but must still move forward.
Many of us are feeling spiritually challenged today, yelling at our TVs, spouses and neighbors about this election from a very safe cushy perspective. Unfriending people on Facebook from behind our screens. This is fear manifesting outwardly. It’s okay to be afraid. When we’re afraid, it’s an opportunity to grow and heal. But when we aim our fear into the world and want to hurt and lash out, it’s called earning bad karma—and it will be given thusly back to us. It’s up to each of us to choose.
If you’re feeling the egoic response of moral superiority and puffing up at your neighbor, telling your Facebook friends to grow up or calm down because you think your life is better today because your side won; or your fear is producing an egoic response of moral outrage at your “deplorable” neighbor who voted for the President-elect, please take a moment and consider this (and hopefully feel better):
As of today a little over 48 hours later, the man who led the downfall of “the establishment” that he despised, who snarked and picked and hated on the people he labeled “stupid,” “corrupt losers” is now today the establishment-elect.
The universe has given him the opportunity to experience the thing he thought was so easy from his lofty golden couch. He sat on the side-line, incited rage and pain on both sides of this election, promoting moral superiority and moral outrage. (Clinton did this too.)
And today, 48 hours into this super-easy job where he’s going to fix everything, we turned on the TV this morning and saw (like never before, I might add) sand trucks lined up around his literal glass tower to protect him from the hate, raging protestors, and potential bombs coming back at him now that he has “arrived” in the role where he thought he could do so much better. Great beginning…so easy, just like Everest on TV.
The big lesson: Donald Trump is all of us every day. So is Clinton.
As a spiritual teacher, what is certain is that Donald Trump’s lessons of being the new establishment leader will be delivered with the perfect karma(probably more accurately dharma, but we can discuss another time) that he’s earned on the way up.
As you can easily, he is already experiencing what he’s doled out to Obama and Clinton and all the people he scorned and bullied from his golden couch. He will experience his perfect justice and perfect learning too—SO THAT HE CAN FORGIVE AND HEAL HIMSELF AND MAKE AMENDS TO THOSE HE’S HARMED, and the universe will give him those opportunities as well.
And so it is for all of us.
Your life and what you receive is as hard and ugly or as beautiful and easy as you make it. There is no escaping it. People who think marriage is hard, discover divorce to be even harder until they begin learning about personal responsibility and the pain they’ve created.
Wherever it is you are walking to, and whatever you think about yourself and others, will absolutely be delivered to you so that you may experience the other person’s perspective, how you make them feel, and what you’ve done to them. You will experience the terror you impart as a bully, or whatever you’ve created on the journey in your relationships.
And the way that you climbed the ladder to get where you’re going will determine how many sand trucks you need when you get there. You will experience the perfect justice you need so that you may learn the consequences of pushing people down, inciting pain so that you may rise. This universe delivers to us exactly what we put out—that is until we learn to take responsibility for our own actions and pain we cause.
Then the universe delivers grace and compassion.
The choice today: If you cannot walk in a way that empowers and loves and finds win-wins for humanity—especially for yourself—then I suggest you take off the sneakers and stay home. If you cannot do that, then you’re going to need some sand trucks.
Trust me, I am working to heal my own karma today. I am nowhere close to saintly. I am Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton, too.
We begin the bravest and most beautiful climb to peace and spiritual ascension by refusing to hurt others when we are afraid (or by making others feel ashamed because they are).
If you’re feeling pain today—and many of us are and don’t know why—then it is grief, it is yours alone, and it can be healed. If you are feeling moral superiority, or moral outrage, and are adding to the pain of others, it is a sneakier form of ego and just as dangerous−time to work on your insecurities and learn about compassion.
We work to make ourselves peaceful and healthy again, taking responsibility for the way we walk, raise our children, and treat all memebers of our communities. It all matters, every moment.
Finally, it’s okay to feel sad about all of this, or angry, or afraid. It’s not okay to hurl this anger onto another so they can suffer, too. Yes, it’s harder than snarking at your Jumbotron and spouse, but in the end it feels beautiful because we know it’s the only way to rise.