I used to believe that emotional stoicism was the best way to manage relationships and life. We, the emotional stoics, are the “just fine” people. You know us. When you ask us how we are, we are always “Just fine, thank you!” We are the ones people count on because we’re pleasant, solid workaholics. We are easy to get along with because we’re safe for others to be around. We always seem fine. I now know that emotional stoicism—the repression or denial of feelings—is the slowest form of suicide. To deny what we feel in order to play a role within society is to…