Posts Tagged‘repression’

What To Do When You Smell Regret on Your Breath…

Got regret? Welcome to my world. I wish I knew a lot less about this topic. However, as awful as it feels to face regret, it is the most powerful, beautiful work we do. Regret is that painful feeling linked with an idea that we could have done something differently—that awful feeling that it’s too late to repair the mistakes we feel we’ve made. Regret is the outcome of the disease I call, “I’m not doing me very well.” We all suffer from regret, because acting from our own integrity is not so easy. In fact, all regretful choices stem from this one idea:…

Are You Repressed and Don’t Realize It?

I refer to the first 35 years of my life as “the Great Repression.” I suffered greatly because the Readers Digest condensed version of me showed up in all my relationships. I remember a moment when I was 7, when my best friend announced her favorite color was pink and I told her, “Mine too,” because I wanted her to like me. Truthfully, I didn’t know my favorite color, so this was easy—it didn’t feel like a fib. I was pleasing people early, yet the people-pleasing wasn’t what bothers me in this story. What’s more disturbing to me now is the idea that a 7-year-old girl didn’t know her…