Posts Tagged‘Relationships’

The Unspoken Burden of Children

This is one of the most important posts I’ve written in a while—at least, it feels like it. It’s about children and is specifically for the parents of children. I believe children are our most precious and vulnerable members of society; they simply cannot exist alone. They are also the most truthful witnesses of society. As parents, who we are for our children directly affects their trajectories. To speak to parents about their children is the most sacred thing I do; I feel the pressure to be honest yet never diminish the efforts of parents or children and their unique,…

Understanding the Universal Desire for Perfection

As compassion awakens, we find ourselves in a new land—or at least it feels that way. This new land is one where the rules are apparent and you are guided easily through the journey. It is a place where dreams don’t die in the daylight; we manifest with ease. It is a place of power, beauty, and abundance. It is a place of peace and kindness. Alice called it Wonderland; Dorothy called it home. Either way, there’s no place like it. Right now, you are likely calling this perfect place “there”—where you’ll be healthy, happy, rich, famous, safe, and secure, here on Earth. I commonly refer to…

SURRENDER DOROTHY!

I was the girl who wanted to be great at everything—without practice. I was great at nothing. NO. NATURAL. TALENT. Yet, because I had to practice a lot at everything, I learned that practice meant I was learning something new every time. As a spiritual teacher, I find this to be the coolest news I get to deliver. The goal of unrelenting, unending earthly processes is not to torture you, but to awaken you to this notion. The chores we perform 20,000 times in a lifetime were never meant to be the same experience even once. They were never meant as “chores” either. These rote tasks are to teach us every time—new…

WHY DO YOU KEEP SAYING THAT DANA???

Almost EVERY SINGLE TIME I get a piece edited for this blog, my own editor questions my use of this word and what the heck I mean by it. Let me clarify the use of the word “posture” and extend my sincere apologies to anyone else I’ve confused! I’ll try not to get carried away. Your “posture” is the most important thing you can understand about yourself. Your posture, not your intellect, defines your ability to understand the universe. To ultimately be successful, you must master the rules of the universe. Your posture reveals your understanding of the rules. “Posture”…

SYMPATHY, SCHMIMPATHY…

After the ten-thousandth time of bemoaning a well-trodden problem, my husband simply said, “When are you going to be ready to let that go?” In a remarkable moment for my stubborn mind, I heard something completely new and totally unexpected, “Dana, your story is a story that is comfortable and keeps you stuck—right where you like it. Your trench is dark and deep, and now you’ve happily nested in there.” Only it wasn’t a nest, it was the Taj Mahal of dark stories and anger that I was certain was responsible for my unhappiness. I’ve moved more times than most people would consider sane. Yes, moving…

WHERE WERE WE AGAIN??

Oh yeah, that’s right. I recently assured you that you are a genius. You are here to do something that no one else can do. It will be the only thing you want to do and it is linked to your spiritual and material abundance. These are not simply huge promises. These are the rules of a universe that is more benevolent than most people (including myself for many years) can imagine or have simply just forgotten. To master this game, we must submit to its rules. If you are not sensing this kind of abundance, material or otherwise, there is only one reason. You are…

29 Years Today!

This was my husband (boyfriend at the time) and me 30 summers ago. I call it the “Big Hair, Small Waistline” era. Time has played a cruel joke, as these are now exactly opposite. Somewhere along the way, I discovered that relationships are the biggest gifts we get and the hardest pieces to manage because they are reflections of our own happiness and authenticity. I am very lucky because of the person who has shown up many days and helped me find a way to really love myself and be proud of myself (despite of myself). I think this is what…