Posts Tagged‘Ego’

Still Upset About Hilliary? Let’s Discuss Moral Outrage

The hardest thing I had to learn on the road to enlightenment is that awareness shouldn’t suck. As I practiced awareness, I witnessed people’s behaviors without truly understanding them, and that’s when I got mad, and it felt awful. It went something like, “Oh, that awful mom just shamed her child in public. Wow! People are awful. Poor kid.” Then I would try to understand and calm myself down by ramping up moral outrage and spewing some of that around. “I wish people would get their lives together before they have children. Who does this kind of thing? One day I’m going to start a…

Are You Treating Your Body Like An Object?

Here’s a warning to all the great spellers out there, I’ve created a new word: Mindbody. One word. Yes, I have an irritated spellchecker, too. This word is my intentional attempt to re-frame the idea that our minds and bodies are separate. They are not, we just think of them that way and sometimes treat them that way. The fact that we’ve given them separate names is not helpful, either. Perhaps worst of all is that they are rarely treated as equals. We live in a mind-dominated world where thoughts, education, elitism, and the Ivy League are synonymous with money, power, and happiness. As someone…

Emotions, TNT, and Zombie Life

I used to believe that emotional stoicism was the best way to manage relationships and life. We, the emotional stoics, are the “just fine” people. You know us. When you ask us how we are, we are always “Just fine, thank you!” We are the ones people count on because we’re pleasant, solid workaholics. We are easy to get along with because we’re safe for others to be around. We always seem fine. I now know that emotional stoicism—the repression or denial of feelings—is the slowest form of suicide. To deny what we feel in order to play a role within society is to…

The Unspoken Burden of Children

This is one of the most important posts I’ve written in a while—at least, it feels like it. It’s about children and is specifically for the parents of children. I believe children are our most precious and vulnerable members of society; they simply cannot exist alone. They are also the most truthful witnesses of society. As parents, who we are for our children directly affects their trajectories. To speak to parents about their children is the most sacred thing I do; I feel the pressure to be honest yet never diminish the efforts of parents or children and their unique,…

3 Subtle Signs That Fear is in Charge of Your Life Again Dammit…

Today’s post is about the silly, subtle tricks of the ego that keep us from moving beyond our fear. As we awaken, we start feeling like we have it more together, yet many times, we find ourselves still avoiding our aliveness. I have lived in this mode for many years—I am an expert in self-sabotage—maybe my experience with this can help you. I call these “tricks of the lesser self to stay safe and stuck.” Remember, most of us will choose safe, stuck, and unhappy over wonderful, new, and happy. It’s what we’ve practiced well, and it’s what many others are doing. It’s hard to face our own fears, much less the scrutiny of “everyone” who…