Posts Tagged‘Dana Drake’

The Unspoken Burden of Children

This is one of the most important posts I’ve written in a while—at least, it feels like it. It’s about children and is specifically for the parents of children. I believe children are our most precious and vulnerable members of society; they simply cannot exist alone. They are also the most truthful witnesses of society. As parents, who we are for our children directly affects their trajectories. To speak to parents about their children is the most sacred thing I do; I feel the pressure to be honest yet never diminish the efforts of parents or children and their unique,…

Getting “Unstuck”

One of the hardest emails I ever wrote was to a celebrity named Martha Beck. Google her. She has at least 3 degrees from Harvard and is an amazing self-help guru. It went something like this: “Dear Martha, I am stuck….”  I know, I know, super profound. It was agonizing and embarrassing to write someone—especially a celebrity—to ask for help when I did not know what the problem was.  “Stuck” is the word a three-year-old uses when she discovers that she cannot climb off the toilet without assistance. I was 32 and had no words for what was wrong with me. TERRIFYING.…

Past the Point of No Return

My first “I’ve passed the point of no return” moment was April 2, 1995. It was the day of my first daughter’s birth. It was also the shortest day of the year, the day we lost the hour we gained in the fall the year before. That day. It was also the era where insurance paid for only 24–48 hours in the hospital to bring a life into the world safely and then recover. Yep… . My water broke at 4 a.m. My husband leapt out of bed like the house was on fire, then disappeared for 10 minutes and returned…

LEARNING THE CODE

So I’ve written a guide to the universe. I know. No one saw that coming. Trust me. We’re all shocked. The book was effortless. However, the struggle of allowing myself to write it came with profound suffering. Tragically, this was never how it was supposed to be. Suffering is unnecessary and this is why I write, and teach, and continue to learn. My work is about teaching you what not to do with your life, as much as it is about teaching you what to do with your life. “The guide” is about how to help you enlighten; painlessly and effortlessly. So what is enlightenment, exactly? Consider…

Understanding the Universal Desire for Perfection

As compassion awakens, we find ourselves in a new land—or at least it feels that way. This new land is one where the rules are apparent and you are guided easily through the journey. It is a place where dreams don’t die in the daylight; we manifest with ease. It is a place of power, beauty, and abundance. It is a place of peace and kindness. Alice called it Wonderland; Dorothy called it home. Either way, there’s no place like it. Right now, you are likely calling this perfect place “there”—where you’ll be healthy, happy, rich, famous, safe, and secure, here on Earth. I commonly refer to…

Funny Story…

I’m lying in bed, pitch black, trying to sleep. It’s well after midnight. I hear frantic rooting around in the master bathroom cabinets. I do mental gymnastics: my children are grown and asleep, my cat is old and not capable of this …what the heck?? I get up to discover it’s my husband in his jammies on all fours, frenetically looking for something with the finesse of a raccoon foraging through a metal garbage can. “Hon?” I ask. “Where are my flossers?” he replies. “You don’t use flossers.” He thinks he has some. And he does. We have about 20 very gently used packages of pokey thready things. I’ve put them…

She Can Speak

Happy Belated Earth Day! In the immortal words of the Disney movie character Pocahontas (paraphrasing here),  “the Earth is not just some dead thing we can claim.” The reason we suffer is because we simply do not understand that the earth can speak, and we don’t hear her anymore. Bear with me; I know that sounds strange. Earth, the mother, aka the home we all share, is beautiful and purposeful. You knew that. She is powerful, and feels unpredictable. You likely have noticed this, too. I have personally lived through ten blizzards including thundersnow, power outages, and pretty sure I saw a polar bear…