Posts Tagged‘compassion’

Grace

Whew. One down, and one to go—graduations, that is. My first-born daughter, Annie, graduated from college about a week ago. Her name was always going to be Annie, by the way. In fact, after my grandmother, Annie Ruth, died, I sat in the limousine at the funeral and told my husband that our first child would be a girl, and we would name her Annie. Three months later, I was pregnant with a daughter—Annie. It was when Annie turned two that I realized that the daughter I had named after my grandmother was actually Annie, my grandmother. I had fallen asleep with Annie…

The Power of Acceptance

The greatest gift we are given as part of our universal design is the ability to accept the world and the people in it regardless of who they are and what they’re doing. If you find yourself upset and you feel that you need to change or control someone else’s behavior, then know this: your ability to accept them as they are is the only thing that you can change. What we discover when we stop trying to change others is the true and powerful nature of self—our compassionate self. When we awaken this compassionate state through acceptance, we understand that the unique qualities…

No, I’m Not Going….

In the category of stupid things I did this week, I just got back from the fancy sneaker store to buy running shoes because I accidentally signed up for a 10 mile race in March. With my New Year’s resolution mantra taped to my computer, “forward, kinder, older, and bolder,” I was working on the bold part. I first decided that 5k sounded bold. It would be an awesome way to welcome in spring—until I realized 5 kilometers is just a weensy bit over three miles. I walk more than that every day, so I decided that was not bold enough. Instead, I…

Silence and Noise

Last week, I promised a post about ego-less conversations and here it is! First allow me to explain what I mean by the term: ego-less. The ego is the self-protective shell we build (think M&Ms) when we have issues of self-worth and are unaware of it. Therefore, no one thinks they have an ego—they just think other people do.  We create this hard candy shell slowly over time to cope with having to go out into a world where we feel inadequate. Like M&M’s come in different colors, everyone’s ego looks different, but they are all the same in purpose—deflect,…

Understanding the Universal Desire for Perfection

As compassion awakens, we find ourselves in a new land—or at least it feels that way. This new land is one where the rules are apparent and you are guided easily through the journey. It is a place where dreams don’t die in the daylight; we manifest with ease. It is a place of power, beauty, and abundance. It is a place of peace and kindness. Alice called it Wonderland; Dorothy called it home. Either way, there’s no place like it. Right now, you are likely calling this perfect place “there”—where you’ll be healthy, happy, rich, famous, safe, and secure, here on Earth. I commonly refer to…

Why There Are No Monks at Malls….

A friend once asked me why so many spiritual teachers and monks lived alone on tops of mountains or away from everyone else. I had no idea why this was or if it were even true. We were both in need of spiritual wisdom at that time. A Monks “R” Us next to the Chick-fil-A in the food court where we sat contemplating such things would have been very helpful. What I did not know at the time was that I was still years away from being ready to receive or practice the wisdom a monk could’ve provided me. And this is why there are…

Are Empathy and Compassion the Same? A Treatise

Okay, this is not technically a treatise; it’s more like a few paragraphs about very important ideas that confuse people (me) at times. Many people use compassion and empathy synonymously. They are light years apart in terms of mind/body states. I think we get confused because we practice one to get to the other. We dare to look at the suffering of others (empathy) to awaken this powerful state (compassion) that we scarcely remember. When we practice empathy as a response to witnessing another human suffering, we are relating to that person through similar feelings of suffering. In this way, we awaken our…