Posts Tagged‘authentic self’

Are You Repressed and Don’t Realize It?

I refer to the first 35 years of my life as “the Great Repression.” I suffered greatly because the Readers Digest condensed version of me showed up in all my relationships. I remember a moment when I was 7, when my best friend announced her favorite color was pink and I told her, “Mine too,” because I wanted her to like me. Truthfully, I didn’t know my favorite color, so this was easy—it didn’t feel like a fib. I was pleasing people early, yet the people-pleasing wasn’t what bothers me in this story. What’s more disturbing to me now is the idea that a 7-year-old girl didn’t know her…

29 Years Today!

This was my husband (boyfriend at the time) and me 30 summers ago. I call it the “Big Hair, Small Waistline” era. Time has played a cruel joke, as these are now exactly opposite. Somewhere along the way, I discovered that relationships are the biggest gifts we get and the hardest pieces to manage because they are reflections of our own happiness and authenticity. I am very lucky because of the person who has shown up many days and helped me find a way to really love myself and be proud of myself (despite of myself). I think this is what…