Posts Tagged‘Anger’

Do Nothing, Change Everything

If you had to place a dart on the picture above representing levels self-awareness, where would it land? Are you aware you’re angry? Do you spend most of your time being angry? Are you ashamed of some things about yourself? Are you aware of any fear? Had you asked me twenty years ago (and I had been truthful), my self-awareness dart would have landed somewhere on the wall—not even on the board. I was relatively unconscious and unaware of any suffering. I was numb and told everyone “I was fine.” This is often what unconsciousness feels like. Ironically, because I was…

Random Thoughts About My Hair

Post alert. If you’re having a tough day, this maybe too hard to read especially if you don’t read to the end (the inspiring part). I hope it gets better, by the way. Don’t worry, I’ll be back next week with news about the book!! Yes, I said book. For a long time now, I’ve been mad at my hair. It started at fortyish. I told myself all the things everyone else says. It’s too thin. It’s hormones. Having the kids ruined it. Need more Biotin. Using the wrong shampoo. My water is too hard…. And on and on and…

The Power of Acceptance

The greatest gift we are given as part of our universal design is the ability to accept the world and the people in it regardless of who they are and what they’re doing. If you find yourself upset and you feel that you need to change or control someone else’s behavior, then know this: your ability to accept them as they are is the only thing that you can change. What we discover when we stop trying to change others is the true and powerful nature of self—our compassionate self. When we awaken this compassionate state through acceptance, we understand that the unique qualities…

Still Upset About Hilliary? Let’s Discuss Moral Outrage

The hardest thing I had to learn on the road to enlightenment is that awareness shouldn’t suck. As I practiced awareness, I witnessed people’s behaviors without truly understanding them, and that’s when I got mad, and it felt awful. It went something like, “Oh, that awful mom just shamed her child in public. Wow! People are awful. Poor kid.” Then I would try to understand and calm myself down by ramping up moral outrage and spewing some of that around. “I wish people would get their lives together before they have children. Who does this kind of thing? One day I’m going to start a…

Getting “Unstuck”

One of the hardest emails I ever wrote was to a celebrity named Martha Beck. Google her. She has at least 3 degrees from Harvard and is an amazing self-help guru. It went something like this: “Dear Martha, I am stuck….”  I know, I know, super profound. It was agonizing and embarrassing to write someone—especially a celebrity—to ask for help when I did not know what the problem was.  “Stuck” is the word a three-year-old uses when she discovers that she cannot climb off the toilet without assistance. I was 32 and had no words for what was wrong with me. TERRIFYING.…

Understanding the Universal Desire for Perfection

As compassion awakens, we find ourselves in a new land—or at least it feels that way. This new land is one where the rules are apparent and you are guided easily through the journey. It is a place where dreams don’t die in the daylight; we manifest with ease. It is a place of power, beauty, and abundance. It is a place of peace and kindness. Alice called it Wonderland; Dorothy called it home. Either way, there’s no place like it. Right now, you are likely calling this perfect place “there”—where you’ll be healthy, happy, rich, famous, safe, and secure, here on Earth. I commonly refer to…

WHY DO YOU KEEP SAYING THAT DANA???

Almost EVERY SINGLE TIME I get a piece edited for this blog, my own editor questions my use of this word and what the heck I mean by it. Let me clarify the use of the word “posture” and extend my sincere apologies to anyone else I’ve confused! I’ll try not to get carried away. Your “posture” is the most important thing you can understand about yourself. Your posture, not your intellect, defines your ability to understand the universe. To ultimately be successful, you must master the rules of the universe. Your posture reveals your understanding of the rules. “Posture”…