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Still Overdoing? My Cautionary Tale

Re-post alert. I am re-posting my cautionary tale about radical overdoing because not only is it something I needed to hear again, it is something that seems many may need to hear again.  I just saw one of my favorite personal trainers from The Biggest Loser, Bob Harper, talking about his massive heart attack at age 51. The fitness expert telling us all how to take care of ourselves—Bob Harper has empowered thousands of people—beautifully and openly admitted that he was not taking as good of care of himself as he should have been. Before his massive heart attack, he acknowledged ignoring many warning signs of his own…

Happy Valentine’s Day!!

In the end, I think we won’t wish for anything to be different except maybe “the how.” Don’t misunderstand, I don’t mean the “how much,” either. We can’t take anything with us—we are all renters here. “The how” I’m talking about is “the how we treated the ones who mattered to us”—especially when it mattered—that how. Valentine’s Day is an easy day to go out and be kind and thoughtful to our loved ones because we’ve engineered it that way. But “the how” that will really matter to us someday, is the how we treated people when it wasn’t easy and they weren’t easy.…

The Quickest Way Home: Into the Darkness

I am a dark worker. People laugh and think I’m joking; they usually correct me and say, “Don’t you mean light worker?” And then I tell them, “No, dark worker.” I don’t see people when they are feeling light or happy. I work with people when things are dark and muddy and terrifying. These are the bravest people I know, by the way. They have the courage to walk deeper into the darkness with a complete stranger. They are prepared to poke around into their cold cup of rancid emotions, say things they’ve never said aloud, and figure their lives…

No, I’m Not Going….

In the category of stupid things I did this week, I just got back from the fancy sneaker store to buy running shoes because I accidentally signed up for a 10 mile race in March. With my New Year’s resolution mantra taped to my computer, “forward, kinder, older, and bolder,” I was working on the bold part. I first decided that 5k sounded bold. It would be an awesome way to welcome in spring—until I realized 5 kilometers is just a weensy bit over three miles. I walk more than that every day, so I decided that was not bold enough. Instead, I…

Forward, Kinder, Older and Bolder

Happy New Year (a little bit late)! If you saw my Facebook page last week you know I cut my hair on December 30 as part of a New Year’s resolution I made to myself. Super-short. This was “action item number one” of a broader resolution for myself this year. My actual resolution was:  be me, accept me, take care of me. Cutting off the colored hair was Step One in my plan. No games, minimal use of chemicals. I have a new mantra, too: Forward, kinder, older and bolder. Let’s just say it’s already been interesting. Along with the…

Still Upset About Hilliary? Let’s Discuss Moral Outrage

The hardest thing I had to learn on the road to enlightenment is that awareness shouldn’t suck. As I practiced awareness, I witnessed people’s behaviors without truly understanding them, and that’s when I got mad, and it felt awful. It went something like, “Oh, that awful mom just shamed her child in public. Wow! People are awful. Poor kid.” Then I would try to understand and calm myself down by ramping up moral outrage and spewing some of that around. “I wish people would get their lives together before they have children. Who does this kind of thing? One day I’m going to start a…

Lessons of Frontier Life: The 2016 Election and How to Feel Better

I have always been obsessed with climbing Everest—at least with the shows about it on TV. About once a year I actually go to the mountains, and my sister drags me up the amongst the bears. Even though it’s not close to the altitude of Everest, it is very challenging for me. From these experiences, all I can say is it’s easy to think it’s easy when you’re sitting on the couch and watching the Jumbotron in your living room—but it’s not. When you’re out there doing, challenging all aspects of physicality and character, then you perceive the experience to be…