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Miracles, Light, and Spiritual Practice

I was in an elevator in the heart of the Texas Medical Center in Houston. The building was huge, but it did not occur to me that office number 3502 meant the 35th floor. The elevator just kept going up. I finally arrived at a very nice, large “office.” It was a therapist’s office, and all I could think was, “I hope my insurance is going to cover this because I can’t afford this kind of therapy.” After a few anxious minutes of waiting in the outer office, I was invited into the therapist’s office. I was greeted by a…

Holiday Strong, Holiday Enough

My husband and I joined this program they were having at our gym this year mainly because we liked the tiny rubber bracelet we get to wear for joining the program: it says, “It’s on, Holiday Strong.” Somehow, the dark, twisty, precarious nature of holidays past vanishes when I look at this bracelet and hear these words in my mind. The longing of moments gone by and the idea that I must somehow produce perfect Norman Rockwell moments for my children melts away. The ideas that my food will not taste “good enough,” or my presents will not “be enough,”…

Do Nothing, Change Everything

If you had to place a dart on the picture above representing levels self-awareness, where would it land? Are you aware you’re angry? Do you spend most of your time being angry? Are you ashamed of some things about yourself? Are you aware of any fear? Had you asked me twenty years ago (and I had been truthful), my self-awareness dart would have landed somewhere on the wall—not even on the board. I was relatively unconscious and unaware of any suffering. I was numb and told everyone “I was fine.” This is often what unconsciousness feels like. Ironically, because I was…

The Scariest Idea in the Universe

There’s an interesting rule in the spiritual world that goes something like, if we can talk about something, we’re probably not very scared of it. The things that terrify us we won’t talk about—at all. Ironic, right? Not only that, we won’t entertain or tolerate anyone that talks of these things. The scariest idea in the Universe is one I learned from clients, but not in the traditional way through talking. The scariest idea in the Universe was the one thing everyone unilaterally never discussed with me; and when I talked about it, people fled. Consider yourself officially warned. The…

BOOK ONE is Done!!!

In times such as these, when we feel as if the world as we’ve defined it is breaking apart, we want to cling to something—or someone(s). The leader of the free world, the pope, or a doctor are the people to look for reassurance, inspiration, and answers. But it’s not their job to make us feel okay. It never was. Yes Dorothy, the illusion that we all must address at some point in our lives is that others have more power or wisdom than we do—they don’t. You alone, and uniquely, are fully equipped for this ride. Therefore, we fix…

Grace

Whew. One down, and one to go—graduations, that is. My first-born daughter, Annie, graduated from college about a week ago. Her name was always going to be Annie, by the way. In fact, after my grandmother, Annie Ruth, died, I sat in the limousine at the funeral and told my husband that our first child would be a girl, and we would name her Annie. Three months later, I was pregnant with a daughter—Annie. It was when Annie turned two that I realized that the daughter I had named after my grandmother was actually Annie, my grandmother. I had fallen asleep with Annie…

What To Do When You Smell Regret on Your Breath…

Got regret? Welcome to my world. I wish I knew a lot less about this topic. However, as awful as it feels to face regret, it is the most powerful, beautiful work we do. Regret is that painful feeling linked with an idea that we could have done something differently—that awful feeling that it’s too late to repair the mistakes we feel we’ve made. Regret is the outcome of the disease I call, “I’m not doing me very well.” We all suffer from regret, because acting from our own integrity is not so easy. In fact, all regretful choices stem from this one idea:…