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Funny Story…

I’m lying in bed, pitch black, trying to sleep. It’s well after midnight. I hear frantic rooting around in the master bathroom cabinets. I do mental gymnastics: my children are grown and asleep, my cat is old and not capable of this …what the heck?? I get up to discover it’s my husband in his jammies on all fours, frenetically looking for something with the finesse of a raccoon foraging through a metal garbage can. “Hon?” I ask. “Where are my flossers?” he replies. “You don’t use flossers.” He thinks he has some. And he does. We have about 20 very gently used packages of pokey thready things. I’ve put them…

Claim Your Humanity

Me: “I believe in people.” My friend: “Mayberry is dead, Dana.” (Yes, I have funny friends.) Me: “People are my religion.” My friend: “The only thing 100 percent of us will do is let each other down, Dana.” Okay, so this is probably true, and yet I still believe in people, despite the fact that the only things I smell on the breath of most humans these days are Starbucks and mistrust. I believe in humanity because I understand what a huge gift that belief is to give one another. Oh, and no, I’m not saying we can choose to believe—we can’t fake this stuff. We either…

3 Subtle Signs That Fear is in Charge of Your Life Again Dammit…

Today’s post is about the silly, subtle tricks of the ego that keep us from moving beyond our fear. As we awaken, we start feeling like we have it more together, yet many times, we find ourselves still avoiding our aliveness. I have lived in this mode for many years—I am an expert in self-sabotage—maybe my experience with this can help you. I call these “tricks of the lesser self to stay safe and stuck.” Remember, most of us will choose safe, stuck, and unhappy over wonderful, new, and happy. It’s what we’ve practiced well, and it’s what many others are doing. It’s hard to face our own fears, much less the scrutiny of “everyone” who…

Day 210

Day 210. Lots to report. My book finally came back edited. My editor informed me that my “guide to the universe” was like 5 books in one. I said, “You’re welcome.” He said, “No.” And some other stuff like “Your grammar is that of a fifth grader” and, basically, “Get busy with some major rewriting, Dana.” So here I am, blogging all day and writing all night. With any luck, Benevolent Universe may be in print by fall. I can use your prayers, people. In other news, I have found a new gym routine and have unleashed an inner beast. Above is one…

Are Empathy and Compassion the Same? A Treatise

Okay, this is not technically a treatise; it’s more like a few paragraphs about very important ideas that confuse people (me) at times. Many people use compassion and empathy synonymously. They are light years apart in terms of mind/body states. I think we get confused because we practice one to get to the other. We dare to look at the suffering of others (empathy) to awaken this powerful state (compassion) that we scarcely remember. When we practice empathy as a response to witnessing another human suffering, we are relating to that person through similar feelings of suffering. In this way, we awaken our…

Compassion: The Door to the Universe

Compassion. It’s a buzzword of the spiritual elite and the only word most psychologists get really excited about. The word itself appeared around the mid-1300s, so it’s not a new concept; yet in the real world, there are very few people speaking of compassion. One rarely hears parents in parks reminding their children to be more compassionate. For me, personally, compassion is a word whose meaning was completely elusive most of my life. All I can say is that, somehow, we know compassion is really important, yet we do not seem to be very compassionate as a whole. The idea…

WHY DO YOU KEEP SAYING THAT DANA???

Almost EVERY SINGLE TIME I get a piece edited for this blog, my own editor questions my use of this word and what the heck I mean by it. Let me clarify the use of the word “posture” and extend my sincere apologies to anyone else I’ve confused! I’ll try not to get carried away. Your “posture” is the most important thing you can understand about yourself. Your posture, not your intellect, defines your ability to understand the universe. To ultimately be successful, you must master the rules of the universe. Your posture reveals your understanding of the rules. “Posture”…