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Trying Versus Doing: Yoda’s Perspective

“Do or do not; there is no try,” was the advice given to young Luke Skywalker, when he told master Yoda he would try. According to an online dictionary, the word try means an attempt to do something one has not done, and Luke was attempting something new. So, why was Yoda admonishing Luke for trying? Isn’t trying a good thing? The wise Yoda reminded the young Jedi that once the decision is made to try, it’s important to whole-heartedly commit to the doing. From a spiritual perspective, the word try is an oxymoron because trying to do something new and doing something…

“Oprah Church”

For a time in the 1990s and early 2000s, an entire international generation of us all went to the same church. If you lived in Houston, Texas, church was Monday through Friday at 4 pm.  “Oprah Church,” a.k.a  The Oprah Winfrey Show, was divinely timed, as there is nothing else you could or wanted to do in Houston most days at 4 pm. It was simply too hot to venture out at that time of day, and yet too early for frozen adult beverages and chips with queso. History will remember Oprah as a great humanitarian and spiritual teacher. It is because of her singular extraordinary voice that we are witnessing the unprecedented flowering of consciousness that the…

LOVE!!

Margaret Atwood once noted, “The Eskimo has fifty-two names for snow because it is so important to them; there ought to be as many for love.” I believe there is only one name for love because it is that important—it transcends all horrors, heals all wounds.  Love is conceivably the biggest paradox of the universe.  When we attempt to measure love with words or objects or money, we diminish its magnitude.  Yet when we share love, it magnifies. I have spent most of my life trying to feel love, it turns out you actually have to feel anything to feel…

GOT AVOIDANCE?

The last spiritual hurdle right before complete acceptance (and submission) is called avoidance. Avoidance is tricky because the world is now full of fun and easy distractions that tempt the creative mind. One of the many avoidance skills I practiced was collecting CVS Extrabucks. Somehow, I decided that if I was doing something useful for the family like saving money, it was okay to delay writing my book.  Turns out getting stuff for “free” was as additive and tragic as crack cocaine. Yep, it was great. However, it was not what I knew I needed to be doing. The irony is that the…

Genius, “Timothy Hutton Pain,” and Oprah

Boylston Street, circa 1990. Me sitting in an exceedingly small, ultra fancy, hair salon getting highlights. I was full-on miserable trapped beneath a large black cape with hundreds of pieces of foil in my hair. From the ammonia and other chemicals, I smelled like an industrial accident. My eyes burned so badly that they were watering causing an epic mascara tragedy—black streaks all over my pasty white winter skin. I had a weird Johnny Depp anti-hero thing going on. Did I yet mention that the space was tiny? As if my worst nightmare was coming true, in walks the most amazing human. Something extraordinary and magical about him. Yes, very good-looking, but there was something…